Alan and I are finally living together after six years. Technically, the distance that separated us until then was under 10 miles ... but I gave up my car nearly four years ago so as to save down payment money faster. 7.6 city miles on public transit with two bus/train switches = an hour, sometimes two on slow days.
Add in the fact that Woody lived in the same neighborhood as Alan, and I sometimes felt twice as lonely, rather than twice as lucky.
And yet ... here we are, in one big house at last.
The advice you've already gotten is just what I'd have said. Except this: if one of you travels more than the other, and either of you notice feelings about that, do talk about them. One or the other of you may feel like he's doing more of the traveling, or relating, or whatever, and while you don't have to *take those feelings as reality*, or blame the other guy for them, it's better to communicate about them, as baraksf said.
Thanks, Pete! your comments have been most helpful and very wise. i thank you for taking the time to write.
Distance is what you make of it, I guess. Even a short distance can seem miles apart.
I think we'll make the best of it, seeing each other when we can. And yes, when one of us feels like we have a problem, an inadequacy or whatever, we should definitely talk it out. It could be tough, since we're both somewhat quiet, reserved people.
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Date: 2003-06-30 02:07 pm (UTC)Alan and I are finally living together after six years. Technically, the distance that separated us until then was under 10 miles ... but I gave up my car nearly four years ago so as to save down payment money faster. 7.6 city miles on public transit with two bus/train switches = an hour, sometimes two on slow days.
Add in the fact that Woody lived in the same neighborhood as Alan, and I sometimes felt twice as lonely, rather than twice as lucky.
And yet ... here we are, in one big house at last.
The advice you've already gotten is just what I'd have said. Except this: if one of you travels more than the other, and either of you notice feelings about that, do talk about them. One or the other of you may feel like he's doing more of the traveling, or relating, or whatever, and while you don't have to *take those feelings as reality*, or blame the other guy for them, it's better to communicate about them, as
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Date: 2003-06-30 10:06 pm (UTC)Distance is what you make of it, I guess. Even a short distance can seem miles apart.
I think we'll make the best of it, seeing each other when we can. And yes, when one of us feels like we have a problem, an inadequacy or whatever, we should definitely talk it out. It could be tough, since we're both somewhat quiet, reserved people.
Still, a little can say a lot.