For the Jury

[eggwards]

Maybe it's bear-run mentality. It's gotten into my brain in such a short amount of time.

Maybe there's just something to the fact that our lives aren't all about sex, but yet we're identified by our attraction more than other people.
Openness leads to the fact that attraction is there, but yet acting on it is completely up to you. You have the power.

Is it wrong that I might work sexual attraction into a model of friendship? Then again, I might not.

I find myself in the awkward spot of not necessarily defining a person by my attraction to them, but certainly creating a first impression that way. How do they look? Does that first glance cause a stirring somewhere lower? Am I a lower person for starting at that base level?

Will you judge me lower for starting there?

Comments

[eskiebear.livejournal.com]

You have to start somewhere. Friendships and associations are founded on many levels. Wit, compassion, intensity and appearance.

"Will you judge me lower for starting there?"

No... I can only judge myself. I found myself guilty of need and I sentence myself to large doses of hugs.

[ubercub.livejournal.com]

Hi...*pokes head in*

I've been trying to make friends and get to know people in the bear community; it's especially hard when you're shy, like me, but like someone said, you've gotta start somewhere. It just seems easier to start with a crotch grab sometimes than with a good conversation...though I welcome both. Maybe that's what LJ is good for...

[jeffdintexas.livejournal.com]

MAN I don't know why such cute friendly guys like yourself talk about having a struggle. I've met you and from what I have seen you are surrounded by some very good fellas who all seem to really like you quite a lot... THAT is the "bear community"... so you're "There" buddy!

[ubercub.livejournal.com]

I see what you mean, and you are right. I was mainly talking about the huge groups of hot guys who all know each other and have been friends for a long time - that's what I think may be difficult for me to plug into.

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