For the Jury

[eggwards]

Maybe it's bear-run mentality. It's gotten into my brain in such a short amount of time.

Maybe there's just something to the fact that our lives aren't all about sex, but yet we're identified by our attraction more than other people.
Openness leads to the fact that attraction is there, but yet acting on it is completely up to you. You have the power.

Is it wrong that I might work sexual attraction into a model of friendship? Then again, I might not.

I find myself in the awkward spot of not necessarily defining a person by my attraction to them, but certainly creating a first impression that way. How do they look? Does that first glance cause a stirring somewhere lower? Am I a lower person for starting at that base level?

Will you judge me lower for starting there?

Comments

[evilcreamsicle.livejournal.com]

ok, I'm sure we're all very familiar with the quote, 'Let he without sin cast the first stone?' Well, I'd be willing to wager that there aren't too many who could qualify for that. Mike - I wouldn't worry or fret over that. We're guys. We look. Not saying that we all do it, but even so, that shouldn't cause someone to look down on you. And if they do, well, that's their problem, not yours.

(And to continue my tirade of stupid quotes...) Regarding first impressions, there's the whole, 'can't judge a book by it's cover' thing, well...here's my take. It's the cover that gets you to read the book. That's why there are illustrators. Same thing is with human relationship/attraction. If you're in a bar, and there's an uber attractive guy standing across from you giving you a wink and a nod, that's definitely going to garner more attention than the not so uber attractive guy. I know that sounds really shallow, but unfortunately, I think it's true. ( I guess that's why I like the online thing - I can't help but feel it gives you a better chance to read the book, without seeing the cover. And personally, although the cover may be nice and shiny, it's the content that REALLY matters) Ok, I'm rambling.

[eggwards.livejournal.com]

I hear you, and in this community there's been a lot of covers that it's been worth opening.

[evilcreamsicle.livejournal.com]

Couldn't agree with you more!