For the Jury

[eggwards]

Maybe it's bear-run mentality. It's gotten into my brain in such a short amount of time.

Maybe there's just something to the fact that our lives aren't all about sex, but yet we're identified by our attraction more than other people.
Openness leads to the fact that attraction is there, but yet acting on it is completely up to you. You have the power.

Is it wrong that I might work sexual attraction into a model of friendship? Then again, I might not.

I find myself in the awkward spot of not necessarily defining a person by my attraction to them, but certainly creating a first impression that way. How do they look? Does that first glance cause a stirring somewhere lower? Am I a lower person for starting at that base level?

Will you judge me lower for starting there?

Comments

[redcub.livejournal.com]

Watch closely how the "normal" folks do it. What you are describing is a pattern based on society at large. "Bird of a feather flock together." With gay men and bears, well we want to hang with gay men and bears. Of course there is going to be some overlap in the lust department.

Sounds like you are doing the same process of the elimination. Why are you bonking yourself for reflex action?

[profundojoe.livejournal.com]

This is exactly what i was about to say. Straight people are defined by their lust just as much as we are. Look at any advertising campaign based on hot models or watch tv for 5 minutes. Ugly people don't live in sitcom houses. If they do, they're an archetype for some negative part of culture. You're normal for wanting to be friends with people you find attractive. NORMAL. Say it with me.....I AM NORMAL.

[eggwards.livejournal.com]

Yes, yes, but then there's the thing about wanting to take it to the next level. Gay men are, in my perception, much more likely to have friends with benefits than their straight counterparts.

It's knowing when it's appropriate to act, or not to act on that initial attraction that seems to be a problem to me.