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One thing that's troubled me about the move to Dallas is that I really haven't been able to build a circle of friends here. Yes, I'm whining a little bit, but i know that lots of it is my own fault.

I have my best friend. Chris is great and I talk to him about everything and anything, but beyond him I don't have anyone I can consistently talk to or hand out with. Some of the people I knew here before hand have moved on, and others have moved on with their lives and aren't as available anymore.

My problem is that I don't make friends as easily as I used to. Perhaps some of it comes from being burned, where I had put more energy (and sometimes cash) into trying to stay friends with people - not necessarily here, but consistently throughout my life. Who knows, maybe I've tried to often to be friends that I looked up to, or were more witty and smart than I. I'm down on myself as not being as smart or funny as I wish I was, and therefore not being good friend material.

I've also been a lot more closed off since I've moved here. I've been slow open up, and scared to go out and be social. I think its the fear of being pushed aside or unloved that keeps me on the sidelines. Maybe I'm just not comfortable with the meeting places in the community where many meet. Bars and pool parties are somewhat sexually charged, and I never quite know how to handle myself in those situations.

There's a new movies group, and we've gone a few times with them, but it's watching movies, there's little getting to know the other people. It would be nice to add a dinner or after movie coffee with that. I think that would be a better thing than bar nights.

I've gone to a couple of Denton Bears events, and so far so good. I haven't seen much out of the Dallas Bears beyond TBRU, but I know occasionally they do a dinner now and again, but they seem to be a rather exclusive group.

Here's the worst thing, I know I've been bad about keeping in contact with people. There's so many ways to get in touch with people, but I always feel like I'm imposing on people if I call or even message people. I know if I don't talk to them, they don't contact me, but when I want some connection with someone, I'm feeling too desperate and don't want to bother people (not even Chris) with my problem. If I can't keep up with people in the good times, then why bother them when I'm in a bad move?

Even when I have met a person around these parts, I don't seem to be interesting or good enough to become anything more than acquaintance, but perhaps I'm the one who's keeping everyone at a distance. I'm not entirely sure, but I'm certainly not helping myself by being an isolationist.

Maybe I shouldn't work the long hours and find some social outlets, but I've not been ready to join groups...even the softball league where I was last year. Those people aren't in my life, either, and I liked a lot of guys on that team. I keep thinking about the Chorale, but never really decide to make the commitment.

I need to work to make Dallas my home, not just the place that I live, hoping to move somewhere else and repeating the cycle. I need to do better to be open to people and allow whatever relationships may come.

I need to find some friends, old and new, and have some good times. It's not that things are horrible here in Dallas, but they could be better.

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Jul. 9th, 2007 11:32 pm
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Sometimes mornings like this one are hurried, and while forgetting to buy more milk, I sometimes decide to grab some breakfast on the way to work. most often this means Chic-fil-A.

Chick-fil-A, which in my mind should still be pronounced "Chick-phill-uh", has the most awesome chicken biscuits around. I like mine with cheese. Recently both Whataburger and McDonalds have put out their own chicken biscuit, but these pale in comparison with the mighty Chick-fil-a. Mainly, the McDonalds chicken incredibly bland (a couple of years ago they test marketed one with a spicy chicken patty that was much better), and the whataburger one uses a chicken strip instead of a chicken breast, leaving a whole lot of biscuit. Chick-fil-a seems to do it right with a soft biscuit and lots of chicken.

Now I eat breakfast biscuits a lot. I often have Jimmy Dean sausage biscuits in the freezer, and heat them up in the morning. Many years ago Owens Sausage sold some frozen chicken biscuits, but i guess they didn't sell well. Occasionally I'll by Owen sausage Kolaches. Not as good as the ones made by real Czechs (or at least their Texas descendants).

I do have a couple of problems with Chick-fil-a. the first one is that everything else they do, sucks. I know people who swear by their chicken sandwiches, but the bun isn't any good, and it's usually served soggy with a pickle underneath the chicken, so it's soaked into the bun. It's gross, and they've been under the heat lamp way too long. I never go to Chick-fil-a after 10:30 am.

The other part is the religious connections the fast-food chain has. sure, there's always the problem of having the desire for a chicken biscuit on sunday morning when they are closed, but it's also knowing that you're helping to fund the founder's various programs, all tied into themes of the Southern Baptist Church. Sure, they make a big deal about their work to give scholarships to their employees, and that's good, but they also run children's day camps and marriage counseling centers.

It's known that the company supports Focus on the Family, and has helped out such productions as Veggie Tales. They also support Campus Crusade for Christ. I'm not so sure I really want to help them with this. Can I please designate where the money goes from my chicken biscuit purchase?

It's interesting that the company spotlights it's founder more than most, but then again, he's why they have such a Christian focus. The founder may not be out on the familiar cow commercials, but his picture is in every store...sometimes several times. Sure, there's a plaque to Ray Krock in every McDonalds (thought he didn't actually found McDoanlds, he just bought them and started franchising them), and Dave Thomas with Wendy's was in their ads from the beginning, but C. Truett Cathy seems to have an odd presents in each store. His foundations are the core of a lot of in-store advertising.

Side note, Burger King seems to have been created by the King himself, and Jack-in-the-Box has run commercials for years with "Mr. Box."

Can I live with myself for enjoying the biscuits but not liking the company? I suppose. Hopefully with more competition selling chicken biscuits, one of the other chains will get it right and I'll have an alternative. Luckily Chick-fil-a has the worst chicken nuggets of any of the fast food chains, so after breakfast, they're awfully easy to pass by.

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