Fathers and Sons
Mar. 17th, 2003 09:22 amHappy St. Patrick's Day. Yes, I'm wearing Green, so you can't pinch me. Neener!
I went out with the parental units last night to finish off the weekend. I also took the laundry so I could get the wash and dry for free. The fluff and fold was all me, though.
I was surprised that Dad and I actually connected for a minute. It shocked me. Normally Dad's incredibly reserved. He follows his father's trait of being reserved, composed and utterly emotionless. I don't know whether he's trying to connect, or he was just tired after having worked a night shift, and then going out to train the other Sheriff's officers how to pass their weapons tests.
Yep, Dad's a jailer, gun repairman, Republican, Limbaugh listening kind of guy. He's also college educated, and one of the wisest people I know, so don't be too hard on him. I'm the family liberal, and I'm still pretty conservative.
He knows that I've had a hard time at work lately, and he was nice enough to be concerned. It was surprising. Not that I don't think he cares, it's just rare that he would actually make mention of it and sit by me and listen. He does that more with Laura, but their bond is different.
Note: Well, I've gotten to a point where I've got to say something I haven't put into this journal. I'm not out to my parents. I'm sure you didn't see that as a surprise, but still...
I'm already of my mind that Mom never needs to know. She may find out, but I'm not going to be the one to tell here. She's on the tenterhooks of sanity as it is, and I just don't want to deal with her getting this revelation. I won't be the one to tell.
Dad, though. Dad's madesome many comments that shows that he thinks homosexuality is wrong. For not being very religious, he can sure use his old Episcopalian teachings to condemn it. Did I mention he's conservative?
This frightens me.
Still, I'm tired of lying. Or at least lying through omission. Other things are happening in my life, and I can't say anything about it. I haven't been able to relate stories about
lostncove,
oakleycub,
mattycub, or even
cristalskye, or all of the other people I've been meeting here. I haven't even mentioned LJ, though all of my friends know about it.
Last night, at Red Lobster, after the talk about how stressful work has been was over, the conversation pretty much stopped. (Mom was there, so it wasn't going any further anyway, but I digress) There was nothing more to talk about. My life, for them, ends there.
I clearly remember counting the ice cubes in the glass. Pondering when, and how I'll tell Dad.
And what the fall out is going to be.
I'm thinking I'll need to get anything else I want out of the house. It's good to finally be able to be independent of the parents, but I may not be able to go back. My family's pretty small as it is, and Laura is the only one I've come out to. I hate to lean on her, but she's going to have to help with Dad here.
He may have already figured it out, but there's going to be denial, and disappointment, and anger. I guess I'm expecting the worst, and it's scaring me.
How much longer can I count ice cubes?
I went out with the parental units last night to finish off the weekend. I also took the laundry so I could get the wash and dry for free. The fluff and fold was all me, though.
I was surprised that Dad and I actually connected for a minute. It shocked me. Normally Dad's incredibly reserved. He follows his father's trait of being reserved, composed and utterly emotionless. I don't know whether he's trying to connect, or he was just tired after having worked a night shift, and then going out to train the other Sheriff's officers how to pass their weapons tests.
Yep, Dad's a jailer, gun repairman, Republican, Limbaugh listening kind of guy. He's also college educated, and one of the wisest people I know, so don't be too hard on him. I'm the family liberal, and I'm still pretty conservative.
He knows that I've had a hard time at work lately, and he was nice enough to be concerned. It was surprising. Not that I don't think he cares, it's just rare that he would actually make mention of it and sit by me and listen. He does that more with Laura, but their bond is different.
Note: Well, I've gotten to a point where I've got to say something I haven't put into this journal. I'm not out to my parents. I'm sure you didn't see that as a surprise, but still...
I'm already of my mind that Mom never needs to know. She may find out, but I'm not going to be the one to tell here. She's on the tenterhooks of sanity as it is, and I just don't want to deal with her getting this revelation. I won't be the one to tell.
Dad, though. Dad's made
This frightens me.
Still, I'm tired of lying. Or at least lying through omission. Other things are happening in my life, and I can't say anything about it. I haven't been able to relate stories about
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Last night, at Red Lobster, after the talk about how stressful work has been was over, the conversation pretty much stopped. (Mom was there, so it wasn't going any further anyway, but I digress) There was nothing more to talk about. My life, for them, ends there.
I clearly remember counting the ice cubes in the glass. Pondering when, and how I'll tell Dad.
And what the fall out is going to be.
I'm thinking I'll need to get anything else I want out of the house. It's good to finally be able to be independent of the parents, but I may not be able to go back. My family's pretty small as it is, and Laura is the only one I've come out to. I hate to lean on her, but she's going to have to help with Dad here.
He may have already figured it out, but there's going to be denial, and disappointment, and anger. I guess I'm expecting the worst, and it's scaring me.
How much longer can I count ice cubes?