For the Jury

[eggwards]

Maybe it's bear-run mentality. It's gotten into my brain in such a short amount of time.

Maybe there's just something to the fact that our lives aren't all about sex, but yet we're identified by our attraction more than other people.
Openness leads to the fact that attraction is there, but yet acting on it is completely up to you. You have the power.

Is it wrong that I might work sexual attraction into a model of friendship? Then again, I might not.

I find myself in the awkward spot of not necessarily defining a person by my attraction to them, but certainly creating a first impression that way. How do they look? Does that first glance cause a stirring somewhere lower? Am I a lower person for starting at that base level?

Will you judge me lower for starting there?

Comments

[eggwards.livejournal.com]

Well, you know, not everyone works on the same rules.

[jeffdintexas.livejournal.com]

I am way behind on this.. sorry.. but I don't think that it's a bad thing that you consider people sexually as you're getting to know them as friends. We are sexual beings and much of how we relate is influenced by our sexuality.

Personally I am disheartened when someone tends to base their friendship on whether or not they "get any" or if the person is someone they'd fuck. I won't judge anyone who lives by that philosophy, but it is disappointing when someone would turn down a potentially good friendship based on whether or not and/or how well they themselves are physically gratified.

We all have a right to choose the values that determine how we interact. I am in no place to judge anyone and won't. But if your entire decision on whether or not to befriend someone is based on whether you "get off" as a result, then I think you're set up to miss a great deal in life.