For the Jury

[eggwards]

Maybe it's bear-run mentality. It's gotten into my brain in such a short amount of time.

Maybe there's just something to the fact that our lives aren't all about sex, but yet we're identified by our attraction more than other people.
Openness leads to the fact that attraction is there, but yet acting on it is completely up to you. You have the power.

Is it wrong that I might work sexual attraction into a model of friendship? Then again, I might not.

I find myself in the awkward spot of not necessarily defining a person by my attraction to them, but certainly creating a first impression that way. How do they look? Does that first glance cause a stirring somewhere lower? Am I a lower person for starting at that base level?

Will you judge me lower for starting there?

Comments

[buddachewie.livejournal.com]

Meh... at least it sounds like your doing it to other gay men... I have the problem of falling for the straight ones... I still have good friendships and all, and I've just come to realize the eye candy is nice, and the friendship is even better.

Of course, the straight friends don't make it easy to resist when the volunteer for full body massages either :-P

Best of luck, and so long as you've got room for change past your first impression, there shouldn't be anything wrong with your current method.

[fzks-cub.livejournal.com]

Oh, I know exactly what ya mean on this one... One of my best friends is a really hot straight cub, and I love him because he's who he is, but him being really woofy helps and hurts at the same time.

It's especially difficult when he *knows* he's hot to me, and taunts me incessantly. At least there's the eye candy... *sigh*

[ubercub.livejournal.com]

Don't worry Cubby; we'll get in his pants some day ;)

[buddachewie.livejournal.com]

well... that's easily fought backable... you just tuant him back about how gorgous he is... usually shuts them down pretty quickly... and if not, well, then it's just foreplay.

[fzks-cub.livejournal.com]

Hmm... Good idea... I think he's coming over tonight, I'll have to try that, thanks. ;)

[eggwards.livejournal.com]

Oh, Bother.

[eggwards.livejournal.com]

Well, that's one thing that's good, I've left most of the straight boys behind. not to say that I don't see them at the mall or something, but I don't have a lot of straight friends that I see on a regular basis anymore, and out of that John and Hans are the attractive onese...we've dealt with those issues many years ago. thankfully.

They are happily married, and I was both of their best men - it was like giving them away, in a way.