The Voice (and Face) of Gay America.
Sep. 5th, 2003 09:23 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
eggwardsLast night I was online, and chatted away with some folks while watching An Evening with Kevin Smith on DVD. Mmm, Kevin Smith.
I have a profile on iChatFinder.com. For those of us using iChat on Macs, this is a way to find other users. Especially since iChat has audio and video tools that only work with other Macs. I bought an iSight camera, so I can do video chat now!
I have that on my profile there. It also says that I came out recently, and such. I guess I really didn't think much about it. It was just something I put there.
So I got a random invite for a video chat last night, pretty late. On came a guy, older, grayer. Not a bear, but he seemed nice. He saw my profile and decided to ask me some questions about my life. I told him that things are still changing, and new experiences keep on coming.
He asked about my being out. I said I was out to most of the important people in my life. I think it fascinated him. He explained that he was still closeted (somewhere in his 50's) and seemed curious on how I had done it. I tried to explain it. I don't know if I helped him or not.
We talked about my relationship with Chris. i think he was both curious and envious. he wants that. I don't know quite what keeps him from coming out himself. It was an interesting perspective. one I'm glad that i won't repeat. I'm glad to be out. Glad to be living this way.
I just didn't think I'd be asked to be the voice of experience just yet.
I have a profile on iChatFinder.com. For those of us using iChat on Macs, this is a way to find other users. Especially since iChat has audio and video tools that only work with other Macs. I bought an iSight camera, so I can do video chat now!
I have that on my profile there. It also says that I came out recently, and such. I guess I really didn't think much about it. It was just something I put there.
So I got a random invite for a video chat last night, pretty late. On came a guy, older, grayer. Not a bear, but he seemed nice. He saw my profile and decided to ask me some questions about my life. I told him that things are still changing, and new experiences keep on coming.
He asked about my being out. I said I was out to most of the important people in my life. I think it fascinated him. He explained that he was still closeted (somewhere in his 50's) and seemed curious on how I had done it. I tried to explain it. I don't know if I helped him or not.
We talked about my relationship with Chris. i think he was both curious and envious. he wants that. I don't know quite what keeps him from coming out himself. It was an interesting perspective. one I'm glad that i won't repeat. I'm glad to be out. Glad to be living this way.
I just didn't think I'd be asked to be the voice of experience just yet.
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Date: 2003-09-05 07:40 am (UTC)People remain in the closet for all kinds of reasons. For those of us of the "prior generation", it's largely a matter of course. It's what we do. It's the values we were raised with. Or it's the company we keep, or maintaining appearances at the workplace. There are as many reasons as there are people.
Perhaps, during your conversation, he made the decision to evaluate his life and maybe get some of the things he's been missing for himself. He may not, but at least he got wide-eyed optimism and enthusiasm instead of ennui and a sense that it's all pointless.