At A Loss

[eggwards]

I just got off the phone with Big Ed from work. His husband died in the hospital this morning while he was getting treatment for ongoing troubles due to a bout of meningitis suffered earlier this year. Apparently Mike's lung collapsed and he went into cardiac arrest. Ed's very upset, and is trying to figure out what to do with his life now, and isn't entirely sure that his condo lease still applies.

In the morning I have to see if he will get bereavement benefits from work while he's out taking care of the funeral arrangements in San Antonio, where they were from. Sure, his supervisor could do this, but I guess I understand the situation a little better and know what to ask the HR folks about the situation. Luckily Mike was already on Big Ed's benefits, so proving they were a couple isn't too difficult.

I wish I could do more, but I'm just trying to be helpful as a work friend. I don't know Big Ed well outside of work, and only met his partner once, when he was dressed as Michael Jackson at a Halloween party, so perhaps I'm doing just what I should do, and shouldn't try to but my way in further. Big Ed has enough to deal with.

The best thing I could tell him was to take care of himself, no matter what, work would take care of itself just fine.

Comments

[kjvbear.livejournal.com]

when my partner died in 1999, the thing I remember most is how so many people helped me thru those dark days. Thats what you are doing right now. Help him as much as you can, and let him know you care. He will need his friends (work friends count) more then ever in the next few months.

[redgtbear.livejournal.com]

I think you have a handle on this one. Just let him know you are there if he needs you. *hugz*

[garebear.livejournal.com]

When my partner passed away, it was devastating. Life becomes uncertain and it feels like the ground has dropped beneath you. You have the right idea, work will take care of itself... Ed needs the time to put his life back together and will need emotional support. I'm not sure how supportive his friends and family will be, but it's good to know that you're there.

Hugs.

[shanecub35.livejournal.com]

Egg, what you are doing is incredibly helpful. You're right, Big Ed doesn't need to worry about work ... you got that part covered and that is a huge help for Big Ed. Thank you Egg.