For the Jury

[eggwards]

Maybe it's bear-run mentality. It's gotten into my brain in such a short amount of time.

Maybe there's just something to the fact that our lives aren't all about sex, but yet we're identified by our attraction more than other people.
Openness leads to the fact that attraction is there, but yet acting on it is completely up to you. You have the power.

Is it wrong that I might work sexual attraction into a model of friendship? Then again, I might not.

I find myself in the awkward spot of not necessarily defining a person by my attraction to them, but certainly creating a first impression that way. How do they look? Does that first glance cause a stirring somewhere lower? Am I a lower person for starting at that base level?

Will you judge me lower for starting there?

Comments

[alphaschnitz.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't judge you lower for starting there. Nothing wrong with that. Everybody wants to be friends with the prettiest girl in class.

The larger concern for me in the situation you describe is this. Are you sure you're not harboring secret booty-call hopes that may or may not come to fruition with PotentialNewFriend^tm. If the secret hopes don't come true, you could find yourself disappointed and frustrated with the friendship. I've been on both sides of the "one person wants 'friends', the other wants 'friends with benefits'" equation, and neither side is fun.

[eggwards.livejournal.com]

It's not that I want everyone, but there are times when I do get in a vibe about someone - I guess I would call it conquest mode. It's happened a few moree times that I'd like to admit, and it can be a large source of frustration. A couple of times I've grown our of it, but I can already name a couple of instances where the friendship is awkward because of it.

I haven't been on the other end as much, but yeah, that's awkward as well.