The Voice (and Face) of Gay America.
Sep. 5th, 2003 09:23 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
eggwardsLast night I was online, and chatted away with some folks while watching An Evening with Kevin Smith on DVD. Mmm, Kevin Smith.
I have a profile on iChatFinder.com. For those of us using iChat on Macs, this is a way to find other users. Especially since iChat has audio and video tools that only work with other Macs. I bought an iSight camera, so I can do video chat now!
I have that on my profile there. It also says that I came out recently, and such. I guess I really didn't think much about it. It was just something I put there.
So I got a random invite for a video chat last night, pretty late. On came a guy, older, grayer. Not a bear, but he seemed nice. He saw my profile and decided to ask me some questions about my life. I told him that things are still changing, and new experiences keep on coming.
He asked about my being out. I said I was out to most of the important people in my life. I think it fascinated him. He explained that he was still closeted (somewhere in his 50's) and seemed curious on how I had done it. I tried to explain it. I don't know if I helped him or not.
We talked about my relationship with Chris. i think he was both curious and envious. he wants that. I don't know quite what keeps him from coming out himself. It was an interesting perspective. one I'm glad that i won't repeat. I'm glad to be out. Glad to be living this way.
I just didn't think I'd be asked to be the voice of experience just yet.
I have a profile on iChatFinder.com. For those of us using iChat on Macs, this is a way to find other users. Especially since iChat has audio and video tools that only work with other Macs. I bought an iSight camera, so I can do video chat now!
I have that on my profile there. It also says that I came out recently, and such. I guess I really didn't think much about it. It was just something I put there.
So I got a random invite for a video chat last night, pretty late. On came a guy, older, grayer. Not a bear, but he seemed nice. He saw my profile and decided to ask me some questions about my life. I told him that things are still changing, and new experiences keep on coming.
He asked about my being out. I said I was out to most of the important people in my life. I think it fascinated him. He explained that he was still closeted (somewhere in his 50's) and seemed curious on how I had done it. I tried to explain it. I don't know if I helped him or not.
We talked about my relationship with Chris. i think he was both curious and envious. he wants that. I don't know quite what keeps him from coming out himself. It was an interesting perspective. one I'm glad that i won't repeat. I'm glad to be out. Glad to be living this way.
I just didn't think I'd be asked to be the voice of experience just yet.
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Date: 2003-09-05 08:07 am (UTC)Re: being taped as an experienced person - we all have something to offer and it sounds like you were able to use a good deal of your personal knowledge to really provide insight for this guy. I've encountered a lot of men his age who 'did the right thing' and married, raised families, and then realize that they needed to be true to themselves.
I'm constantly reminded that the impact we have on those around us is immeasurable. Thanks for being there for this fellow Michael.
*HUGS*