Mar. 11th, 2010

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A couple of years ago when [ profile] jamesbeary passed away I went to his funeral, and helped [ profile] urso find the church, the graveyard, etc. I had known James from here on LJ, had met him in real life and spoken to him on occasion, but when it came down to it I felt (and even said in this journal) that I din't know him that well, and wish that I had done more.

I felt odd at the funeral as Urso, Chris and I seemed to be representing the LJ/Bear community at his funeral, and here were people from his family, from the Deaf community and all that I had never met. I knew there were many more people in the LJ/Bear community who knew him better, and I wished they were there.

Come last night and I get word that [ profile] daveomatic had passed. Davo was one of the fist people I had met in the flesh from LJ, as he still lived in Houston at the time. He got up and moved to Canada, where he got married. I remember writing about how remarkable I thought it was that he had gotten married. To a man! Crazyness (but in a good way)! I think that was 2005, if I remember. I wish I could find that post right now.

I wish I could say I knew him better. At least in my view he was always a bit mysterious and guarded. Friendly, but only to a point. There was something, I'm not sure whether to call it a sadness or darkness behind the smile that i couldn't put my finger on, and Davo wasn't offering up.

Davo had an old journal, one that perhaps told stories that would have led me to understand more, but he closed that one. Then he closed off the one I had the pleasure of reading, and dropped off the grid. A few months ago I saw that he had made contact with Alex [ profile] darke, and it seemed that he was already in poor health, so i guess it wasn't that much of a surprise to hear that he was gone (unlike James which was a big surprise).

I wish he had stayed in touch, told us what was going on, perhaps had asked for more assistance.

Again I'm sitting here wishing that i knew him better, and could eulogize him better than I cam able. For some reason I feel compelled to write about him, but yet have so little to say.

So here's to you Davo, may you be at peace.


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